Everyday when I wake up, I view my social media in what I will admittedly yet embarrassingly describe as an almost robotic fashion. After all, where else can I check what Holly Willoughby will be wearing on TV this morning or what Lucy Meck is eating for breakfast? I'll be the first to admit, I genuinely don't even know why I do it. At this point it's second nature. Is it a waste of time? 100%.. Could I live without knowing the information I obtain? 100%, Without a doubt the reasoning behind why we seek social gratification and interaction is often silly and mundane, but also the sad reality our generation has fallen victim to.
Quite frankly I couldn't give a fuck if Lucy Meck's whacking a bit of poached egg and salmon down her neck or half a mashed avocado on toast, i'll be sticking to my nutella weetabix (yes i know, a tutorial will be coming soon. 2 weetabix, 1 spoon of nutella, i'll leave the rest to your imagination) BUT i'll tell you what I do care about..
And what I've realised is, we give up these precious morning minutes for people we don't even know. I check in with Holly the TV presenter and Lucy the Fitness Guru before Lisa the Technical Support Analyst, Lou the Travel Agent and Kate the Barmaid. My best friends and thee baddest bitches I could ever wish to know. It's hard to admit but I also know, I'm not alone in this acknowledgement.
Yes, it is hard. Finding time and spreading your time amongst everyone you love can be hard. I get that. But it is surely harder to come to terms with the fact that your friends or family feel a disconnect from you. You are responsible for the effort you make. Please do not allow someone you know, become someone you knew.
Communication doesn't have to be daily. I get that. Life get's in the way. But don't let the chaos of your own life, cast a shadow on the lives of those closest to you. Just a weekly check in. Are you ok? How's things been? What's new with work. How's so & so's partner, can mean the world.
Some of you are probably reading this, confused by my Oprah-like godly wisdom.. but the reason behind this post, is actually quite deep. I open my social media as I earlier stated, on a daily basis and the only time a non-celebrity based story or topic trends, is when death occurs. How sad is that?
What's sadder is more often than not, the common denominator when it comes to the cause of these premature deaths', is suicide.
Suicide for me, is one of the few words that stops me in my tracks every time i hear it and what seems to echo on every occasion is loneliness. When someone suffers with their mental health, naturally they feel alone and isolated from what is 'norm', which is why I urge you to all reach out to those around you.
I went to school in a small town in Tyrone, N.Ireland, which was and could potentially still be the black hole of unemployment in the UK. In this small town, I know more family's that have been affected by suicide, than haven't. Every time I learn of another life lost due to mental illness or self harm, whether or not I know the person, their background or story I genuinely feel a sick feeling in the pit of my tummy. It's unimaginably sad and heartbreaking to know that someone's mind has actually allowed them to believe that continuing their life will bring them more pain than what ending it would.
As individuals we can only be responsible for ourselves and our actions. With that said, it's also important that we take accountability for how our actions and attitude affect those around us. So stay as positive, happy and optimistic as you possibly can and spread those vibes among the company you keep.
Breaking the stigma surrounding mental health is something I feel extremely passionately about, so I will be dedicating a weekly series to 'Matters of the Mind', where we will together delve into all that is Mental. The reason behind this series? Well, in my opinion mental illness is talked about conveniently. Bringing attention to the word on world suicide awareness days once a year, or when someone takes their life, although relevant, is too late. Maybe due to ignorance people aren't aware, but shedding light on this subject is always relevant and could mean the difference between a life lost and a life on the road to recovery.
"It is in our darkest moment's that we discover our hidden, inner, immeasurable strength. It is in our darkest moment's that we discover the power of our light and the light of those around us. May our misfortune inspire us to help those suffering, so that they do not face the same darkness we once did."
Thanks for reading! Lots of love,