Nobody is better than you and you are no better than anybody. Stop walking with your head down. Stop looking away when people talk to you. Walk tall, have more confidence and please start seeing the potential that everybody else sees in you.
Allow yourself to be heard. You have so much to say, so many thoughts, so many feelings but you keep them totally to yourself. Let go of the fear of judgement. Let go of the fear of rejection and speak your mind. You were put on this earth for a reason. You're actually pretty brainy not that anyone would know, as you happily live in the shadow of others voices. You know who else lives in the shadow of other people? The Grim Reaper. You're 16 chick not 70 so wake the fuck up and starting living your best life. You have as much of a platform as anyone else, start using it.
Stop listening to people who tell you that you 'can't' and start listening to your inner voice that says you can. No dream you have is too big. Also, stop thinking you can't do great things because you're from a tiny town versus a city. In years to come you'll see how many people put your town on the map and that too could be you. Dream, plan, grind and achieve. Be that bitch.
Speaking of bitches, don't allow yourself to actually become one in the company of one. A riddle, I know but for real. Don't agree with bitchy comments or nod when someones talking shit in fear of starting an argument. Politely tell them you don't agree and subtly walk away from the scenario. Aint nobody got time for those negative vibes! Also, someone who will chat shit to you will chat shit about you.
Don't kiss boys who are mean to you. Legit, don't do it. Boys who are rascals at this age, grow in to men with no morals and we're looking for a prince not a prat. #BoyBye.
On the same note, stop over looking the nice guys. Lizzie McGuire chased Ethan Craft who was unintelligent, unmotivated and uninteresting but popular over Gordo who was sincere, smart and genuinely in love with her. And guess what happened to Lizzie? She lived to regret it and you will too. Be smart. Pick a Gordo in a world full of gormless but gorgeous idiots.
One thing i'm super proud of you for, is sticking up for what is right. Especially when people talk sh!t about your friends or bully people unable or unwilling to stick up for themselves. You're so quick to dismiss the negative slurs thrown by bullies to your friends but equally as quick to believe the ones they throw at you. Why so? You're actually a pretty cool human. Start seeing this please.
Stop expecting verbal or physical rewards for doing well in life. You passed an exam? Congratulations. You got a job? Fab. You should be doing all these things for your personal, human growth. Stop seeking admiration for things you should naturally be doing.
If you're doing something that doesn't feel natural to you or you don't enjoy it then question why you are doing it. If it isn't for the greater good of the world or the greater good of yourself, then don't do it, period. Life is way to short to spend time doing things or chilling with people who don't bring you joy. That said, I actually wish you HAD of spent more time going to sixth form even though you didn't enjoy it. Genuinely believe you could have aced every A Level and had a pick of Universities if your attendance wasn't so ridiculous. Part time student? Who knew such thing existed. Holy Cross College, apparently.
Switch the TV off and read more books.
Stop feeling like a freak when other people talk about sex. Just because everyone else is at it, doesn't mean you should feel obliged to partake. I mean, you don't even like anyone at the minute so what's the rush. Wait till you find someone you genuinely have feelings for and fully trust before loosing your V plate.
If you like, fancy, miss or love someone.. tell them. People aren't mind readers. You will be more grateful for rejection than regret. Not knowing what could have potentially happened with people or past situations can be soul destroying.
Don't take people for granted. Not your parents, grandparents, friends or teachers. They deserve a medal for putting up with you at times. Let them know you are thankful for what they do, more often and more obviously.
All the shit you think is important, ultimately isn't. If you fail an exam it isn't the end of the world. If you don't do well at college there are other options. If the guy you like, likes someone else there is a million more and potentially a million more suited people you could be with. If the popular kids think you're weird.. well actually this point is accurate. You are. You my friend are 100% wacky and weird but I'd rather a mint chocolate chip Ice cream than a vanilla! You feel me?
When you get emotional or sad for no reason, stop getting angry at yourself. The activeness of your mind is both and blessing and a curse. You seem to think about everything, all the time. You have a million ideas but they aren't all great. Some thoughts are deep and then tangent into darker thoughts. You aren't a loon, you're just a little more susceptible. Just air it from time to time instead of bottling it up because that isn't healthy. Also, cry more. You never cry and you probably need to release the abundance of shit that you feel. Stick on 'A Walk To Remember' or blast a little Adele, your tear ducts will be flooded in no time.
As always, thanks for reading!